of loved one's and second chances

Read the latest book by mitch albom that anup gave me. It’s name did not stick in my head. This book is about this person who realizes what his mom went to him when he lost her and luckily for him he gets another day with his mom and time to reconcile differences. What is weird is I was thinking about something on these lines a few days before.
How at bashir bagh papa was not very close to three of us and though mom was close her attention was divided between 9 of us. It’s is when we moved out of that protected shell of our joint family that we saw ma n dad are also vulnerable. In the 5-6 years of us away from the joint family was when we grew up together. It was like a new beginning. We could not even have a family dinner without someone getting upset. I remember once sandy and sang couldn’t stop giggling and making noise and papa was like I can’t have dinner with this noise. We all were silent for the rest of the dinner. But one time finally three of us said we can’t have dinner in such silence and took our plates upstairs. That’s when we began having noisy family dinners. The time sandy was away studying and then sang was when I got both papa and ma’s undivided attention. Though I missed both sang and sandy like crazy.
We all got a second chance of revisiting our relationships with sang and my wedding. That taught me how any place where ma, papa, sang, sandy and ross belong will be home for me forever.
Finally when I went off to Worcester to study and be around jayesh is when I learned how much Hyderabad is also a part of my identity. Though I love loa, little niko, iye, miriam, and the people at stone soup at Worcester….but Hyderabad is a part of me and makes me feel home. During this stay all the time so far in Hyderabad I would be at home at every chance I get. I do not want to be away from ma, papa, sandy and rossie. This line about how when your are miserable you make lives of people around yourself miserable. Anup said it’s cos you love yourselves more than others. I dissented cos I think sometimes when you are feeling low you can’t see the impact of that on your loved once. I know that because I have made sang and ma cry in the past but never intended to. If ever in my life id have to choose between me and the one’s I care for. I would not choose me.